with Lisa Farrar, The Plant Based Health Coach

#Gratefully annoyed...

Ahhh… November, the month of gratitude…

You know how when you’re a kid, you’re very carefree, laid back and easy going, not a care in the world?

Then as we get older, something changes. 

At some point, I remember feeling like I had been hit in the face with a mass amount of stress. I went from that carefree, easy-going kid to a psycho, unhappy, unfulfilled, stress-ball.

A lot of people refer to this experience as life. “Life happens,” they say.

I wasted years being a pessimist and I was pretty good at it too! My secret to being a pessimist was playing the blame game. Instead of taking responsibility for myself, my choices and actions, I blamed anything and everyone but myself.

The list included society, my family and friends, random people I didn’t know, uncontrollable circumstances, basically, you name it, I blamed it/he/she/they.

I was suffering from poor health, not exercising like I should be, working in an unfulfilling job, not really creating a future for myself, not building healthy relationships and I was really depressed.  Deep down, I knew there had to be more to life than all the suffering but I didn’t know how to pull myself out it.

Looking back now, of course it was easier to blame others for my poor health, easier to blame others for my lack of exercise, and easier to put the blame on others for my unhappiness. Blaming others meant I didn’t have to take responsibility. It also meant I wasn’t going to change. I wasn’t going to get healthy or find any happiness in life.

Eventually, I’d had enough and it was time to make a choice.

Either stay miserable or do something about it.

So, I decided to do something about my pessimistic, unhappy behaviors.

I didn’t really know how to change my thought process from negativity to positive but I began to journal. It took a while of journaling even more negativity for me to realize that it wasn’t helping much. So I started writing down things I was grateful for in my day and believe me this wasn’t easy at first, but I started with 3 small things I was grateful for each day.

Eventually, this gratitude practice became easier and I began running out of room to write about all the things I was so grateful for in my life.  It took time before I started to notice my attitude was shifting, I didn’t feel so alone, and  I was starting to become less stuck in that negativity and blaming mindset.

I was able to start taking responsibility for my life, my health, my dreams and goals.

Sometimes, it’s hard to look in the mirror and realize that we have all the power we need to make things happen for ourselves.  We really do.

We either choose to suffer or we choose to thrive.

Either way, we have a choice and our power lies within our choice.

I made the choice to be grateful instead of hateful and it made all the difference in the world.

Some of you may get annoyed with all the posts you will see about gratitude this month.

I will rejoice in those posts. I know that through those posts, others are growing and expanding their life, including me.

So, what in your life are you grateful for, no matter how small?


Make sure you post and hash tag #LimitlessWellbeing so I can be grateful with you!


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